Grab a chair

We recently had a visit from Seriousbondage.com and whilst they were here Grimly showed off the chair to bondage model Elise Graves ;)

Promo video here

From Serious Images : – “We are honored to present this unique video featuring our friends Grimly Feendish (FetLife) and Elise Graves (FetLife). The common factor that brought these two kinksters together was Grimly’s famous bondage chair. What started as a simple medical exam chair has been transformed into a feendish torment device designed to take its helpless subject on a journey of multi-dimensional stimulation. Warning – one should be careful when playing with someone whose name is Grimly Feendish. This is what we told Elise Graves, but she wanted to give Grimly’s chair a shot anyway. Hold on to your seat and check out her experience in Part-1 of this two-part video. This is the real deal. By the way, check out Grimly’s retail website LockedForInfinity.com which features genuine JG-Leathers body harnesses in custom made-to-order sizes!”

To see the full video in all its awesomeness please join up at Seriousimages.com and see my despicable husband in action :)

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Asking for it??

March is question and answer month.

Does anyone have any questions for me or for Grimly for that matter?

If so, leave a comment or send an email

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Replies may take some time due to visitors this month, but please post here if you want to ask a question you have till 31 March to get your questions in!

In other news….

Our friends from Serious Bondage will be visiting on Monday! Also, an article I wrote for them a while back is now live – please take a look.

If you have visited my page today because of finding me on Serious Bondage, hello! Please take a look around, I won’t bite, unless you ask very nicely! lol

Bondage with friends

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I think what makes bondage and bdsm the most fun is doing it with a person or with people you love and care about, whether it be a romantic partner or just sharing your kinks whether by playing or by just chatting about ideas with friends. Coincidentally I was tied up for the first time by my very best friend ten years ago today! Yep, its really been that long! Like a lot of people I went through a phase of not realising how many people out there had similar fantasies and it was a good feeling when I came to realise I wasn’t alone and actually that a lot of people are very passionate about this stuff, and not only that, that there are people out there who can make the stuff of dreams come to life and that a lot of kinky people are very intelligent, successful and diverse. Not,as the media portrays them to be. The majority of people have a healthy outlook on this. It is only a very small minority that are sexually damaged, abused, or predatory. It’s just a shame those kind of people are the ones that journalists write stories about. It’s also another very small minority that own helicopters, but thats another story that sadly this week is very hard to ignore!

Over the years, I’ve met some idiots. But the majority of the people I’ve met as a result of my ‘interests’ are lovely and people that would be my friends regardless of whether or not kink stays a shared interest and that I have other things in common with. Certainly, my husband is my soul mate for more reasons than the number of things he’s made me. I like his sense of humour, how he is with his friends and family, how he looks after me, all sorts of things that I couldn’t list. Like, how he supports me when I’m at my worst and how he smiles when I’m at my best.

I know from memos and emails that a lot of people are amazed by how lucky I’ve been in what I’ve got to try and who I’ve got to meet. You know what,  I’m amazed too! I ‘m not really anyone special I have a 9-5 job, a nice little house and a sensible car (plus a broken convertible but lets not go there please Mr Kc lol) and I’m not of model proportions. Nor do I make a ‘living’ from being kinky. Maybe I could have tried to more so in my twenties, as I had done a bit of modelling here and there, and I’ll still maybe do the odd project, but its never going to give me an income that allows me to give up the ‘day job’. My luck has been with who I’ve met and who they in turn have introduced me to. I was very lucky in finding Grimly, and in turn for him not blowing me off right away! I think we just had so much in common when we chatted and then later found the x factor or whatever you call it was there that things worked for us.

By Grimly being an exhibitionist, I found him, and by us together documenting our kink we came under the radar of people like JG Leathers. People who we’d admired for a while (Grimly longer than me since I was still relatively new when we started playing together) and that we never expected would be interested in us. Sometimes you know when you first talk to someone whether they are likely to be a lifelong friend or not, or whether the chat will run its course and then shrivel up. I think we knew pretty soon after talking to JG that we’d be friends a long time and despite him being probably one of the kinkiest people I’ve met, I’d happily do vanilla things with him and his wife, even air shows! lol I think kink is just a starting point for a friendship, just the same as how two people that like birdwatching might become friends.

In turn, JG has introduced us to quite a few other people, such as Mark of Serious Bondage, who we were luckily enough to visit during our honeymoon. We’ve tried over the years to do the same as well, introducing friends of ours to other friends of ours and helping people make connections. Quite a few people seem to find us, either through my blog or fetlife and I’ve found a lot of really close friends that way. A lot too who I exchange one or two emails with and then it fizzles out, but I think that is life.

The time we had at the Serious Bondage Institute was fantastic, and I’m reiterating this now because in just under a month my friends SeriousBondage and petgirl_kako will be visiting us along with a new friend well known bondage model EliseGraves. I’m really excited about their visit, we should hopefully do some fun photo shoots for the serious bondage website and maybe i’ll give you a sneak peak! ;)

I loved the whole atmosphere during the few days we spent in San Francisco. Probably because it was Folsom Street weekend, there were a lot of people around at the same time that might not otherwise have met, and it was a pretty cool crowd!sb

I think its great when you can go to an event and just feel as though there’s plenty of interesting people there that you want to get to know and spend time with. The party after Folsom Street was great because it was just a lot of people hanging out together, trying out different gear that was about the place, taking photos, and just generally having a good time indulging in the shared interests of bondage and bdsm. During the party, I must have had on three or four different outfits, different straight jackets, fiddles, tried 2 different suspensions rigs and goodness knows what else, not to mention tormenting my poor Belgian friend with smelly socks and peanut butter whilst he was unable to move due to mummification! I dunno, it was just a really great vibe of lots of people doing what they wanted and enjoying the experience together.

So, I thought whilst my American friends are over in the UK I would try and recreate that  sort of vibe. Together with the help of the people at Mars4 I’ve arranged a Serious Bondage all day party in the Manchester area on the 14 March:) I mean when I say arranged, I mean suggested really. I’ve not really arranged anything, I’ve just encouraged others into helping me enact an idea.  If you are a bondage gear head and live within distance of Manchester please think about coming along, though places are limited now to members, though its not costly to join. It’s possibly going to be full up soon as we want there to be enough people for it to be a good event, but not too many that the place feels crowded or that people get left out.  I have no idea how it will work exactly, just what I hope for and that is that lots of people that are cool will be in the one place, sharing ideas, maybe sharing gear,and there ideally being a few photo shoots that end up on the Serious Bondage site and that everyone is involved and everyone has a good time. I want to show Mark how us brits do this, so hopefully it all works out! It’s a great venue for being a backdrop if nothing else!

I’ve thought about this a lot especially since lately I’ve perhaps dommed others more than Grimly has played with me, just because of how life has gone lately with family issues and work and all manner of things, and I think the thing that makes me happiest is seeing my friends happy. Seeing them indulge in the things they enjoy,and especially if I’ve helped make that possible for them. Yes, as a top/domme I like being a sadist, I like being in control, but the thing that I like best as soft as it sounds probably is seeing someone happy even if they don’t know they are happy till they’ve had chance to digest what actually happened, if you know what I mean ;) In that sense, I want everyone at this party to kind of go away from it afterwards thinking yeah do you know that was actually really cool, and a great gathering, so hopefully it works out!

Anyway, in the meantime, here’s a bondage hug (taken with my friend secretsmile101)

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Serious about the boy

Today is this girl and Grimly’s third wedding anniversary, and next year will be about ten years since she has known him all together so its safe to say this girl is pretty serious about her man. She’s old fashioned in the sense that she feels marriage is a life commitment and if you take that then you sign up for the whole deal the rough times and the smooth.  She recently found some honeymoon pictures that she thought were lost on a corrupted memory stick so today seemed a good time to post them!

These pictures were taken after getting back to the Serious Bondage house after a day at the Folsom Street fair. This girl had asked Grimly nicely if she could put her feet up after being most of the day in hoof boots and having quite sore feet, and he and the SB crew kindly obliged (well, sort of) by providing a sort of suspendable stretcher and a neoprene sleep sack and hood.

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This probably was one of the most blissful bondage scenes this girl has ever enjoyed since it was just quiet and floaty and intimate. This girl had been really nervous about going to Folsom Street for probably all manner of irrational reasons mostly circulating around her lack of confidence in her body image and how she would look in her pony outfit and what people would think. Those kind of fears evaporated quite quickly since whilst shy this girl can be an exhibitionist in the right environment and on arriving there she found lots of people just wanted to take her picture and give positive reactions to what she was doing, and that was quite a buzz. The excitement and the buzz kept her going and kept her attention away from how slowly tortured her feet were being in the hoof boots until she had a chance to sit down and sort of digest it all. Though the thing this girl got off most on during that whole day was how he looked at her, and how proud he appeared to be of her. He probably doesn’t realise that a lot of the time she’s proud of him too and that she’s there to help him through things that he worries about and has crazy thoughts about as well. This girl likes having a strong man to protect her, but sometimes she just wants to protect him right back.

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This girl finds bondage a kind of safe place sometimes since when she’s under his control its as though nothing bad can happen, nothing can interfere its a complete escape from reality. This girl knows from experience of playing from the other side that although only one person of the two is in bondage it is very much a similar feeling for the dom but perhaps with a stronger mental feeling of security and control than a physical one. This girl likes the physical reminders and that she’s not going anywhere because he doesn’t want her to go anywhere other than where his imagination might lead things.

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This girl still finds it slightly bizarre that she fell for Grimly for reasons of a very sexual and fantasy nature and yet ended up finding out there was so much more to the man than just him being a creative, mad,evil genius. He is that though. Well, at least some of the time. This girl loves how wicked yet how loving he looks in this picture. He might be evil and a bit eccentric but he’s hers and she couldn’t possibly imagine sharing these adventures with another man and this girl knows she is incredibly lucky to have found her soul mate.  Bondage and BDSM are fun of course in their own right but so much better for being shared with someone with whom their is a connection,a history and well, a life in the background that is more than just a fantasy.   If all this girl and Grimly had was the kink this relationship would not have lasted so long because it would have run out of steam, but, there is more to it than that.

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This girl and Grimly have had a few stresses of late, and quite a bit of uncertainty in what might be in their future given the upcoming Scottish Independence referendum but she would go through anything with him, anywhere. Yes, this girl loves bondage, she loves the adventures this ‘hobby’ has given here, but her marriage and the happiness of her husband mean more to her than these adventures.

This is something this girl wrote for the hand fasting ceremony she and Grimly had at JG Leathers’ house a week after their wedding :

It’s easy to explain how I first met you and what first attracted me to you. But love is not necessarily about what happens first. After all these years it is difficult to find the words to explain why I love you so much.

You have always been there to comfort me in difficult times and you have always made me smile and laugh. You’re my best friend.

I said to a friend recently that I feel about you the way I feel about the sea. I do not like to be more than a few miles away from you and you make me feel at home wherever we are whether its in Scotland or abroad with friends.

As you know being near the coast is part of my background, my great grandparents were fishermen and my grandfather served in the merchant navy, putting himself at risk to make a better life for the lady he loved.

Like love, sometimes the sea is peaceful and calm, the sunlight shining on the waves, other times it is more dangerous and turbulent as a storm might appear that may cause a ship to steer off course.

But sometimes it is the unexpected that makes love more meaningful. Anyone can be happy together when they are safely on the shore on a sunny day with the sand between their toes, but love mans more when you can survive the storm and return home to be in the arms of someone special.

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Happy Anniversary Grimly xxx

Wet dream

A wicked Wednesday post : the theme this week is the word wet.

Grimly had a wet dream the first night this girl was in his house. At least sort of. Apologies to anyone who has heard the story before but after a heavy afternoon of play this girl couldn’t sleep and decided to jump out of bed in the playroom and sneak through with a squirty bottle of water (the type they use for watering plants in a greenhouse) and squirt it in his face and on other parts of him that wouldn’t like cold water at 3am. He got revenge quite quickly by taking her to bed with him but only tormented by plugs and a chastity belt. He’s pretty much kept getting revenge ever since.

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This picture was taken during our visit to JG Leathers’ place in 2009.

However whilst we were at the Serious Bondage house during Folsom weekend 2011 this girl got another bondage soaking. It wasn’t quite as cold, since it was after parading about twin peaks in latex in the blistering heat, but it was very wet!

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This girl has always been interested exploring water in bondage further whilst getting hosed is a lot of fun especially if it part of bondage games like this its not her main water based fantasy.

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Of course lots of things get this girl wet. Well actually pretty much most things kink that she has tried have that effect. Honestly, if it wasn’t a turn on why do any of this?

This girl’s main attraction always in BDSM whether it be at the submissive/mascohist end of the spectrum or at the dominant/sadist end is the fact that it turns her on and sets her pulse racing in a way that ‘vanilla’ sex just wouldn’t.

Water bondage as such is something though she is yet to try as in the sense of water being the main element of the torture.  Something like this picture is very much on her ‘bucket list ‘ ;) Although it needs something slightly larger than a bucket !

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This picture is from the website waterbondage.com. This girl isn’t sure if Grimly would be able to rig anything quite like that up in the playroom but maybe in the future he’ll make some sort of smaller more compact version, or maybe this girl will experience it somewhere else. Given how crappy 2013 has been this girl is really wanting to push a few more boundaries and fantasies next year, so well, watch this space!

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All hands on deck

Happy Valentines Day!

Well so today is that time of year where people send cards, buy heart-shaped chocolates, send flowers and generally be a bit more romantic than normal. Yes ok sometimes to the point of being a bit cheesy and sickening about it (said whilst perhaps opening Valentines’ card ;) )

This girl and Grimly have not been particularly romantic over Valentines’ day, having just sent a card to each other, after the wedding there is not really any need for any big grandiose romantic gesture. The thing is too, romance is important all year round and not just on a day that it is scheduled. So, tomorrow, will be a normal Tuesday at work and nothing more.

Many days are not normal!

As part of their honeymoon in September this girl and Grimly had spent some time in San Francisco with Serious Bondage and after checking out one of the viewpoints of the city, some fun was had on the back deck, involving a bit of plumbing, latex, JG Leathers and a hose pipe – and bondage of course.

The Serious Bondage deck has appeared in many kinky photos, on their website and then in people’s own pictures of parties and events there. Whilst this girl and Grimly were there many people were strapped into a bondage chair which was out on the deck whilst everyone else chatted and drank and enjoyed the party. There is a hole under the deck as well to keep naughty subbies at bay of which there were quite a few! Whilst a lot of people at parties sort of gather around the kitchen, given the nights in San Francisco were quite warm everyone enjoyed being outside and a bit of bondage al fresco.

The pictures show this girl in red latex and the butterfly straight jacket being strapped into a face mask Grimly had made her and posture collar and being tied to a hydrant sort of thing. The picture should be kind of obvious as to what happened next!

Well so it seemed that not only this girl’s husband enjoys soaking her with water! Given it was a hot day it felt much nicer than being drenched does in Scotland, but even then it was very cold!

This girl had made the mistake of waking Grimly up with cold water on Sunday morning (sort of tradition sometimes on their anniversary) and he did not react well. Luckily all he had was the shower to chuck her into and not the hose pipe to attack her with, but even then he was quite enterprising with ensuring she didn’t escape in the early hours of the morning!

Whilst this girl loves her husband she also loves fun and adventure and mischievousness. It is why she is with Grimly to begin with.  So normally Valentines’ day is about sending sentiments to a partner, but this girl has also got a great deal of love for the people in her life who have crossed her path either just once or frequently to share in such adventures of bondage, dressing up, pain, pleasure, and of course friendship.So if you are one of those then consider this your valentine minus the chocolate (sorry) ;)

Buying a box of chocolates or sending a bunch of flowers is very easy, but giving up your time and skills to share fun and adventures with someone else means so much more and is priceless to this girl. So long may such fun continue for all those who wish to explore kink amongst their friends and partners.

Points of view

So far 2012 has been uninteresting kink wise :(  This girl spent Christmas with family and the New Year with very good friends and had three weeks with Grimly – whose birthday it is today!  She had a fantastic festive period just not a kinky one. 

This girl and Grimly haven’t yet had chance to play this year but he has been doing  a lot of work preparing the workshop he will have here so watch this space – he has so much more room to make equipment here than he does currently in his little shed!*  It will be good when he has the ability to make equipment here where this girl can take photographs of the process and hopefully share some handy tips with you.

Anyway, despite nothing much happening so far this year this girl still has plenty to share with you from last year and the honeymoon. So much happened and there have been so much non kink related distractions since this girl has a little backlog of writing to do! She has already mentioned she and Grimly visited San Francisco with JG Leathers and attended the Folsom Street fair (pictures a few posts back) but in addition to that she also had a guerrilla photo shoot with JG and Serious Bondage / Serious Images. Some of the pictures are below,and are part of a full set posted up a few weeks ago on the Serious Images website (a paysite but worth a subscription as there are plenty of hot pictures on there to see)

These pictures were taken at ‘twin peaks’ in San Francisco in front of several nosy sightseers. Well um they definitely saw the sights!

This girl felt really self conscious because although both herself and JG Leathers were fully dressed it was pretty obvious it was a bit unusual wear for such a hot day! Some of the tourists did ask  what JG and this girl were dressed up for and were given the excuse that it  some background shooting work for a movie and for a magazine. Given Mark from Serious Bondage had the sound boom and the video camera that explanation seemed to stick! Anyway,the tourists seemed interested enough to take pictures  and it seemed the unusual addition to the viewpoint attracted several of the passengers on the tour buses!

In any event this girl was still pretty self-conscious at the whole thing. However not so much as if it had been in the UK. It seems San Francisco has a much more laid back attitude to kink and alternative sexualities especially when it is around Folsom Street Weekend which is so heavily advertised that all the locals know exactly what it is and that there may be people around who look ‘unusual’  However pretty much what happened at the viewpoint was what JG calls S&M stand and model lol. It’s a different matter subjecting to locals to heavy play, nudity or sex – lines this girl would never cross. Dressing up in what can be explained as fashion and/or fantasy was enough. It seems to be getting the case now that movies and so on include latex outfits, but goodness knows what the tourists thought to ‘the creature’ harness and JG’s hoof boots!

It’s perhaps slightly hard to explain but this girl is most definitely a shy exhibitionist. She got a kick of being there with JG and dressed in latex with such a remarkable view in the background,but the curious onlookers did freak her out a little. None of them seemed bothered or upset and perhaps that is why she felt a little bit freaked out!

This girl is the type of person who worries about what people think. Often too much to the point where she over analysing things like thinking ‘well if i write about being in latex in public in front of tourists will people judge that negatively’. Well the thing is, it was fun, no one appeared to be outraged (or not that they said) and everything considered the pictures turned out pretty hot (well in this girl’s opinion lol)

But this girl does worry about what people’s view of her is. The thing is though of course there is not a thing she can do about that. She is what she is and people will think what they think and will either accept that or they won’t and this is true whether it be for what she does in a fetish sense or at work or whatever.

Anyhow, this is where you come in, your points of view are important to this girl. When she began the blog she never expected anyone to read it apart from Grimly. He will always be the person she primarily writes it for but having others read gives a nice feeling of recognition and has also led to this girl meeting people and making new friends in some cases very good friends like a few certain ladies ;)

For the next few months this girl may well be limited with writing time (and possibly limited on opportunities for research ;) ) given so much is happening with Grimly’s move and work stuff so here is your chance to say what you would like to see this year or read about? Would you like more fiction for instance? Or do you have any questions on anything you’ve seen here or that you would like this girl’s opinion on?

Ideas and feedback and other opinions are welcome at any time, but now given it’s a new year is a chance to share your ideas :)

Anyway, that’s all for now , all that remains to be said for the moment is Happy Birthday Grimly!

* A good friend said on one of the wedding cards that ‘the secret of a happy marriage is that it remains a secret’. However Grimly has said that the secret to a happy marriage is for the husband to have a shed.

However, he did not quantify this statement with any explanation as to whether he meant a shed should be a refuge for a man to escape to with a cup of coffee and a paper,whether he meant a shed should be a place for a man to sleep in when he annoys his wife by being naughty or whether he meant where  a man should spend time creating restraints and tortures to keep his wife under control.

Oh well that will perhaps still need to remain a secret ;)

I want my mummy!

So back to that box in San Francisco…….

Whilst this girl was secured in the box Mummyed of the Serious Bondage crew busied himself with mummifying three guys – Subbboy2,Chuck & Daever.

All the while the guys were being mummified this girl was shut in the box, slightly cramped and squished and breathing through her gas mask which was connected to a hose leading to the outside! It takes quite a long time to wrap three guys in  clingfilm and vet wrap as anyone who has been mummified will know. At least it felt a long time. Though its one of those types of bondage activities that takes a long time to get into but really not much time at all to get out of! (The feeling of a cold knife against the skin being quite erotic after the warm cosy feeling)

Being in the dark this girl really had no concept of time, however, whilst she couldn’t see anything she could hear plenty of what was going on outside and lots of shuffling noises.

From time to time Ed opened the box just probably to check she was still there and hadn’t done some escapist magic trick (if only)

She did manage to get out of the original cuffs she was put in but some kind soul ended up finding some inescapable ones. Well there were plenty to choose from !

This girl quite enjoyed being in the box whilst the guys were mummified. Whilst those guys were getting hot and sticky in their clingfilm she was quite spaced out. Somehow a gas mask does that very easily to her as though perhaps the regulated breathing causes an almost hypnotic effect.

But with three safe guys out there was it safe to come out?

Well those guys weren’t going anywhere and certainly no danger to anyone in their cosy wrapped up state!  With some assistance and a kind person with the keys this girl managed to get out of the box and see the artistic display that the boys were working on :

Perhaps a slight clue where the gang were all going to be heading two days later!

pictures taken at & by the crew at Serious Bondage.

Action packed!

Well the honeymoon is over and this girl has been delivered back to reality with a bump. Thank you to everyone who helped make it so special and also to those who have left words of support and encouragement from afar. Normal service (ish) will soon be resumed.

Perhaps being transported in this comfy crate complete with air supply would have been much comfier than sitting on the piece of cardboard that was called a seat!

As a result of a rubbish flight this girl is still rather jet lagged, a bit more sense and more stories to be delivered your way soon :)

Photo taken at Serious Bondage at a party during the build up to Folsom St.