Ballooned!

One of the things that sometimes puts me off feeling kinky is my size. I feel lately that I’ve put on a lot of weight probably with comfort eating whilst we’ve been stressed with family goings on, the winter and my recent holiday.

People can actually say I look fine till they’re blue in the face, but if I don’t feel comfortable I don’t feel comfortable and that’s it. It’s an issue I need to have a better way of dealing with and I know that, but I think it’s probably quite common in women to sometimes not feel attractive and find the bits in photos that they don’t like too easily! So I know I’m not alone in this.

When I feel like that it’s really hard to want to do kink especially when a lot of the times Grimly likes to take photos and at those times having my photo taken is the absolute LAST thing that I want.

Having said that, I’ve gone I think past my ‘tipping point’ where I’ve realised what the scales say and have now started action to get back to the size I want…roughly the size I was five years ago LOL. So, lately I’ve rejoined a gym and also started a diet class. I’m just hoping its all enough to make a difference in time for BOUNDCON! Though, I’m feeling positive as I can see a difference to where I was last month:)

Though…some bondage gear just isn’t that flattering…some gear does make the wearer look like a balloon😉 Continue reading

Friends with benefits

Some people might remember earlier in the year I was helping to organise a Serious Bondage party at a fetish club we know here in the UK. A video of the party is up  on Serious Images this week. What follows in this post is a sneak-peak! 

Those of you who are members  of Serious Images I hope you enjoy the party video, those of you who aren’t – well you’ll just need to think about joining! Continue reading

Double trouble

Another one of our videos went up on Serious Images this week! This was shot in March.
Take a look here. In this video we put Cherry Bakewell in the latex sleepsack and then I put Anne O’Malley in the arm binder and then a butterfly straight jacket. To see what happens next take a look at some of the pictures here, or check out the video!
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Grab a chair

We recently had a visit from Seriousbondage.com and whilst they were here Grimly showed off the chair to bondage model Elise Graves😉

Promo video here

From Serious Images : – “We are honored to present this unique video featuring our friends Grimly Feendish (FetLife) and Elise Graves (FetLife). The common factor that brought these two kinksters together was Grimly’s famous bondage chair. What started as a simple medical exam chair has been transformed into a feendish torment device designed to take its helpless subject on a journey of multi-dimensional stimulation. Warning – one should be careful when playing with someone whose name is Grimly Feendish. This is what we told Elise Graves, but she wanted to give Grimly’s chair a shot anyway. Hold on to your seat and check out her experience in Part-1 of this two-part video. This is the real deal. By the way, check out Grimly’s retail website LockedForInfinity.com which features genuine JG-Leathers body harnesses in custom made-to-order sizes!” To see the full video in all its awesomeness please join up at Seriousimages.com and see my despicable husband in action:)

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Asking for it??

March is question and answer month.

Does anyone have any questions for me or for Grimly for that matter?

If so, leave a comment or send an email

aSK

Replies may take some time due to visitors this month, but please post here if you want to ask a question you have till 31 March to get your questions in!

In other news….

Our friends from Serious Bondage will be visiting on Monday! Also, an article I wrote for them a while back is now live – please take a look.

If you have visited my page today because of finding me on Serious Bondage, hello! Please take a look around, I won’t bite, unless you ask very nicely! lol

Bondage with friends

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I think what makes bondage and bdsm the most fun is doing it with a person or with people you love and care about, whether it be a romantic partner or just sharing your kinks whether by playing or by just chatting about ideas with friends. Coincidentally I was tied up for the first time by my very best friend ten years ago today! Yep, its really been that long! Like a lot of people I went through a phase of not realising how many people out there had similar fantasies and it was a good feeling when I came to realise I wasn’t alone and actually that a lot of people are very passionate about this stuff, and not only that, that there are people out there who can make the stuff of dreams come to life and that a lot of kinky people are very intelligent, successful and diverse. Not,as the media portrays them to be. The majority of people have a healthy outlook on this. It is only a very small minority that are sexually damaged, abused, or predatory. It’s just a shame those kind of people are the ones that journalists write stories about. It’s also another very small minority that own helicopters, but thats another story that sadly this week is very hard to ignore!

Over the years, I’ve met some idiots. But the majority of the people I’ve met as a result of my ‘interests’ are lovely and people that would be my friends regardless of whether or not kink stays a shared interest and that I have other things in common with. Certainly, my husband is my soul mate for more reasons than the number of things he’s made me. I like his sense of humour, how he is with his friends and family, how he looks after me, all sorts of things that I couldn’t list. Like, how he supports me when I’m at my worst and how he smiles when I’m at my best.

I know from memos and emails that a lot of people are amazed by how lucky I’ve been in what I’ve got to try and who I’ve got to meet. You know what,  I’m amazed too! I ‘m not really anyone special I have a 9-5 job, a nice little house and a sensible car (plus a broken convertible but lets not go there please Mr Kc lol) and I’m not of model proportions. Nor do I make a ‘living’ from being kinky. Maybe I could have tried to more so in my twenties, as I had done a bit of modelling here and there, and I’ll still maybe do the odd project, but its never going to give me an income that allows me to give up the ‘day job’. My luck has been with who I’ve met and who they in turn have introduced me to. I was very lucky in finding Grimly, and in turn for him not blowing me off right away! I think we just had so much in common when we chatted and then later found the x factor or whatever you call it was there that things worked for us.

By Grimly being an exhibitionist, I found him, and by us together documenting our kink we came under the radar of people like JG Leathers. People who we’d admired for a while (Grimly longer than me since I was still relatively new when we started playing together) and that we never expected would be interested in us. Sometimes you know when you first talk to someone whether they are likely to be a lifelong friend or not, or whether the chat will run its course and then shrivel up. I think we knew pretty soon after talking to JG that we’d be friends a long time and despite him being probably one of the kinkiest people I’ve met, I’d happily do vanilla things with him and his wife, even air shows! lol I think kink is just a starting point for a friendship, just the same as how two people that like birdwatching might become friends.

In turn, JG has introduced us to quite a few other people, such as Mark of Serious Bondage, who we were luckily enough to visit during our honeymoon. We’ve tried over the years to do the same as well, introducing friends of ours to other friends of ours and helping people make connections. Quite a few people seem to find us, either through my blog or fetlife and I’ve found a lot of really close friends that way. A lot too who I exchange one or two emails with and then it fizzles out, but I think that is life.

The time we had at the Serious Bondage Institute was fantastic, and I’m reiterating this now because in just under a month my friends SeriousBondage and petgirl_kako will be visiting us along with a new friend well known bondage model EliseGraves. I’m really excited about their visit, we should hopefully do some fun photo shoots for the serious bondage website and maybe i’ll give you a sneak peak!😉

I loved the whole atmosphere during the few days we spent in San Francisco. Probably because it was Folsom Street weekend, there were a lot of people around at the same time that might not otherwise have met, and it was a pretty cool crowd!sb

I think its great when you can go to an event and just feel as though there’s plenty of interesting people there that you want to get to know and spend time with. The party after Folsom Street was great because it was just a lot of people hanging out together, trying out different gear that was about the place, taking photos, and just generally having a good time indulging in the shared interests of bondage and bdsm. During the party, I must have had on three or four different outfits, different straight jackets, fiddles, tried 2 different suspensions rigs and goodness knows what else, not to mention tormenting my poor Belgian friend with smelly socks and peanut butter whilst he was unable to move due to mummification! I dunno, it was just a really great vibe of lots of people doing what they wanted and enjoying the experience together.

So, I thought whilst my American friends are over in the UK I would try and recreate that  sort of vibe. Together with the help of the people at Mars4 I’ve arranged a Serious Bondage all day party in the Manchester area on the 14 March:) I mean when I say arranged, I mean suggested really. I’ve not really arranged anything, I’ve just encouraged others into helping me enact an idea.  If you are a bondage gear head and live within distance of Manchester please think about coming along, though places are limited now to members, though its not costly to join. It’s possibly going to be full up soon as we want there to be enough people for it to be a good event, but not too many that the place feels crowded or that people get left out.  I have no idea how it will work exactly, just what I hope for and that is that lots of people that are cool will be in the one place, sharing ideas, maybe sharing gear,and there ideally being a few photo shoots that end up on the Serious Bondage site and that everyone is involved and everyone has a good time. I want to show Mark how us brits do this, so hopefully it all works out! It’s a great venue for being a backdrop if nothing else!

I’ve thought about this a lot especially since lately I’ve perhaps dommed others more than Grimly has played with me, just because of how life has gone lately with family issues and work and all manner of things, and I think the thing that makes me happiest is seeing my friends happy. Seeing them indulge in the things they enjoy,and especially if I’ve helped make that possible for them. Yes, as a top/domme I like being a sadist, I like being in control, but the thing that I like best as soft as it sounds probably is seeing someone happy even if they don’t know they are happy till they’ve had chance to digest what actually happened, if you know what I mean😉 In that sense, I want everyone at this party to kind of go away from it afterwards thinking yeah do you know that was actually really cool, and a great gathering, so hopefully it works out!

Anyway, in the meantime, here’s a bondage hug (taken with my friend secretsmile101)

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