Back to the future


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A wicked wednesday post – the theme this week is the past, present and future It’s possible you might have heard of a friend this girl has. He’s a kind of crazy and eccentric Canadian man who if it were possible would perhaps … Continue reading

Shopping therapy Sunday #2 : Axsmar

This is the second post in a  series on various kink retail experiences she has had. This series of posts are based on personal experience and are not sponsored reviews, she has not received any money or free products based on her comments.

Hopefully this series might introduce you to some new items and websites you might not have seen before or give you confidence to go ahead with a purchase. Anyway hopefully you will enjoy! If you wish to participate and post in Shopping therapy Sunday yourself then just leave a comment with a link or drop an email 🙂

Shop : Axsmar

Located in : Manheim : Germany
Available to visit in person : Yes believe so but by appointment only
Language : German & English :  items priced in Euro though can change currency to USD.


Site layout : Easy to navigate, products categorised.
Items available : Metal bondage specialist – variety of stainless steel collars and restraints, titanium collars also available. Several unique steel bondage ideas too including the famous nose shackle and also arm traps and other ideas. Custom service also available. This girl used the custom service as she wanted a nose hook based on the one JG Leathers designed.
Pricing : Quite expensive – however – having said that you get what you pay for and the quality is amazing.
Ordering : Shopping cart system with options of ways to pay.
Communication : Excellent.  This girl had tried their stock nose hook and also the one JG Leathers had designed. It was no trouble for them to make her one and their communication was very fast and very friendly. It’s nice knowing that they will do custom work as well as the stuff listed on the site.
Postage  : For what this girl has purchased in the past costs have been reasonable, items well packaged and on time and discrete.

What this girl bought : nose shackle – though she has also tried various restraints they have made for JG Leathers.

The nose shackle that is available on the website without enquiring for a custom one is shown in the picture below :-


The belt is also by Axsmar but belongs to JG. What a bitch he is that he has a similar waist size! This was this girl’s first ever introduction to anything made by Axsmar and the quality is amazing. There is absolutely no escape from any of their gear (provided you have chosen the right size for you of course) and it feel heavy-duty and is beautifully shiny. Being chained to this fence and abandoned and only able to move centimetres got this girl very spicy indeed. It was also one of the first bondage sessions she had during her 2009 visit to see JG Leathers with Grimly and so it was a lovely experience. Not long after that JG Leathers designed an alternative nose hook, more industrial in nature. The one in the picture above is perhaps prettier and daintier but this girl was attracted to the more industrial look so it wasn’t long before she just had to have one.

The following picture shows it in use together with the arm binder straight jacket (from the now defunct subshop) that Captive Kink had brought up during one of his visits to the old playroom at Grimly’s:-

axsmar new style nose hook accompanied with suspension bondage by Grimly & arm binder straightjacket by subshop(not available any longer :( )

However (to date) the most fun this girl has probably had with Axsmar toys is when she and Grimly did a wedding bondage shoot in JG Leathers’ garden. The steel seemed to compliment the satin and pearls just beautifully! Oh probably the first and last time she’ll combine bondage with a tiara 😉


It had been a fantasy of this girl’s for many years to be in bondage in her *actual* wedding dress so it was a dream come true to be chained in it and tormented by her husband (at that point she had just been married to him about 3 weeks)


A lot of people do ask how secure into the nose the hook is. Well the answer is very! Hopefully this picture below demonstrates that. However it is not uncomfortable just being worn for it’s own sake. It *can* be uncomfortable though if someone yanks a chain on the end of it it restricts the ability to manoeuvre somewhat! The thing is though – that just makes it very effective yet very simple and beautiful bondage.


Steel bondage is something this girl loves very much and certainly the quality of what Axsmar make is second to none. Yes its a bit expensive, but for memories like these ones absolutely worth it!


If you have had experience of this site or their products and want to leave a comment (good or bad – provided it can be supported) please do so .

Hope you have enjoyed this review and supporting pictures – stay tuned for next week 🙂 (and well hopefully some more kink in-between!)

Points of view


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So far 2012 has been uninteresting kink wise 😦  This girl spent Christmas with family and the New Year with very good friends and had three weeks with Grimly – whose birthday it is today!  She had a fantastic festive … Continue reading

Turn me on


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So this girl finally got to try The Creature again in a comfortable (at least to begin with) reclining position. The build up had been quite intense and she very much appreciated the little sojourn in the garden!  Her body … Continue reading

A creature of habit


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This girl and Grimly spent their honeymoon with JG Leathers over in Canada. Some of the time was spent with Serious Bondage in San Francisco, and some over on Vancouver Island, but this girl ensured there was time to thank … Continue reading

Follow my leader?

Recently this girl went away for the weekend with a specialist car group she belongs to. Note – the car in the picture isn’t hers – if only!  Her car is worth a lot less, and not a classic – just old!

It is slightly odd because since owning her current car this girl has found that car ownership can be a fetish all of its own if you have the type of car that is something a bit more special than one that gets you from A to B. Some cars are like people they need a bit of pampering and spoiling from time to time – some more than others! Since having this car this girl has spent more on it than BDSM. Possibly at one point Grimly was worried that it was going to take over from this girl’s other hobbies – but it hasn’t.

Anyhow – its pretty much her pride and joy, so when she found out that there were other people with the same interest – in the same way she found there were other people into bdsm – she decided to try to meet some of them.

The funny thing is – a group of car enthusiasts are no different to a group of fetishists. They talk about random stuff, they come from all walks of life, but all have that one particular thing in common. So anyhow this girl decided to go to an event with them.

It was not her thing. Grimly had told her that it wouldn’t be. Yes. HE TOLD HER SO! Sorry Master next time this girl will listen to you!

She ended up driving in a lot of traffic in the rain on roads that might otherwise have been spectacular – especially if there wasn’t any other traffic! This girl is a girl racer not a curb crawler – she really would like a latex Penelope Pitstop outfit yet funnily enough nowhere seems to sell them. Too niche??

Anyhow its had this girl thinking. She doesn’t really like being a follower. As in, following other people sheep fashion which essentially is what that was like. It’s no fun being one of many.

At school this girl was a bit of a follower. Just someone who blended in with the crowd and didn’t particularly stand out. She stood out academically but that was really was the only thing that made anyone notice her. Sometimes just going along with a crowd of peers is not a good thing, and a bit dull. This girl has never really enjoyed being someone who just blends in that no one notices and that just goes along with the majority and does what everyone else is doing. Its boring.

This girl would rather stand out a bit more. That comes to BDSM as well. Before this girl met Grimly it seemed that a lot of people do the same sorts of things and never get really all that adventurous. This girl has always wanted adventures, to experience new things and go places and to see how close to reality the thoughts and possibilities of things in her head can become.  Though sometimes you don’t need to go further than your own backyard to experience a world of adventures, but then sometimes the grass is a bit greener on the other side.

With STEFFY , October 2009

Maid to dress up?

The pictures are a few taken at this girl and Grimly’s engagement party last year when she was trying out Rubbert’s arms-down straight jacket and then was accosted by people trying to feed her party snacks lol

In the pictures this girl is wearing a pink maid’s dress (yes having to be the maid at her own engagement party – disgraceful eh?) and a red leather straight jacket. The dress is something that Grimly thought would be fun , but this girl has mixed feelings about it because she’s not really that much of a pink person.

The whole dressing up thing is actually something this girl used to think she wasn’t that bothered about. After all, when she first got into BDSM her feelings were mostly masochist ones. ‘I want someone to hurt me’. Of course, that is taking it to a very basic definition – but there it was.

Probably that simple truth is the thing that gets a lot of people started with BDSM. Whether it’s wanting to be hurt or do the hurting. It’s really just a matter of *how* you go about achieving that, and, well, there are quite a lot of ways to explore.

When this girl was with her ex really all she wore for play was lingerie normally. Though he did buy her a corset for the first time she went to a fetish club and a collar and cuffs. That was really the beginning of this girl’s fetish wardrobe. After that she added bits that were appropriate for fetish clubs such as pvc dresses and things like that. This girl doesn’t really go to fetish clubs these days, since she’d much rather play in private, but that was the sort of thing she wore when she went to them years ago and her reason for really buying fetish clothing to begin with – most clubs have a dress code of some sort that has to be adhered to for entry to be allowed.

She also started seeing the attractions of dressing up more when she started doing spanking modelling for Northern Spanking, since most of the scenarios involved costume and role play.  In a big sense having the right outfit aids the ability to get into a character whether it be a nurse or a secretary, or in the case of Grimly’s tastes a robot or a pony, or whatever else he feels like molding this girl into at the time!

Dressing up can be a lot of fun. This girl always enjoyed it when she was little, but back then she wanted to be princesses and fairies and things like that. How sick and twisted!

The first ‘outfit’ this girl bought to wear for Grimly was the red latex top and skirt that’s currently in the header at the top of the page since she knew it would be to his tastes. Rubber is odd in that it can look very good or very bad just dependant on how well made it is and how much it suits the person wearing it.  This girl is lucky in that she’s had a few custom items made by the boot fetishist and so they fit perfectly.

These days the dressing up is part of the game and something this girl has gotten used to being a small or very large part of the session dependent on what is going on.  Sometimes the play makes wearing nothing (or little) the most appropriate option but then of course other times it can be more erotic to be fully clothed or fully encased and bound but with stuff going on despite that.

One of the big advantages of course is quite often catsuits and things like that hide the wobbly bits, and make pictures maybe more attractive and more sexually implicit than if everything was on show.  Of course, there are outfits that are specially designed also to make bdsm and bondage more appealing and more unusual.

Clothes make the man.

Or girl. Or submissive.

Ultimately that’s the thing, Grimly could make her wear anything he wanted her to.

Though….she would draw the line at Celtic* or Rangers* colours! Thankfully thats a hard limit for him too!

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* for none brits – the 2 Glaswegian soccer teams that dominate the sport in Scotland

The creature revisited

** AKA The holiday pictures you never saw **

Whilst in the company of JG Leathers last week this girl got to see the creature again. This time, its rider/victim being the lady behind Alternative Mindsets* It was very interesting to see someone else in not so much her shoes, as her harness, and quite a turn on too!

The version of the creature used was mainly the leather harness, together with breather bottle and breast cups. So it lacked the added elements of the bouncy garage suspension springs and the electrics, but it looked amazing all the same.

It made this girl think whether she wanted another go of the creature after having tried it twice in Canada, and the way she is thinking at the moment she is hoping that she will have the opportunity but maybe with some adaptations that might be possible with a trans-atlantic collaboration. The first time this girl went in the creature it pretty much shell shocked her. Like being in a machine. Taken, and violently. The second time she was in a much more comfortable position and so it was a much more enjoyable ride. Being in the whine cellar at JG HQ was amazing, but the creature retained its presence this side of the pond also encapturing its new victim just as nicely.

The idea for this girl to dress up as a pony mistress was partly because sunday afternoons pony play was rained off but also because the harness alone is part of JG’s horsewoman interpretation as seen in pony girls at the ranch.

However, this girl found it a bit difficult to get in the role. It might have worked better if it had been outdoors or if she hadnt been in the presence of so many higher skilled dominants.

Sometimes getting into a dominant headspace is difficult for this girl. Well, saying that sometimes getting into the right submissive headspace is hard as well!  This girl has often joked with Grimly how she would quite like to dominate him just once (these fantasies she gets normally involve buggering him) but the joke quickly fades when he puts her in her place. Literally and physically.  Grimly has always said that if anyone was to dominate/top him it would need to be someone that he wouldnt be able to second guess. That he wouldnt be able to see what’s coming, and that would have inventions equal to or madder than his. How many people like that are there? (add to that they would need to be female and attractive) This girl knows that she doesnt fit the criteria for being able to shock him.  He would see everything coming a mile off.

However, this girl can’t blame him. She would be the same if she were looking for another dom or considering one for play. For example, she’s quite happy to play with JG or Captive kink but some random at a club with a flogger and a st andrews cross – no way. In a way this girl feels bad that she’s been possibly spoilt and has a bit of snobbery going on but then in any aspect of life you get use to standards you are comfortable with and want the same or better. That also and bdsm is a sensory adventure, like an addiction always looking for the next rush , the next hit and a mediocre scene in a fetish club just would not meet the bill – it would be like taking paracetamol when you’re used to morphine to use a pain killer as opposed to a paingiver for a metaphore.

Since this girl started playing with Grimly she has felt pretty much inadequate as a dom. In a way thats a good thing because it encourages to focus on her role as his submissive, which is her main passion and her main fantasy. Its maybe also because she compares herself to him, she compares her skills to his and just doesnt feel as though she measures up in that regard. Though, even when she tried to pro dom in a place where the other doms were of equivalent skill she didnt feel right either but then there were other reasons why that didn’t feel right.

This girl never wrote about this before (mostly because of not really being fussed with the blog for the first half of this year too much  and forgetting she had unfinished bits of what happened in Canada – and she doesn’t like to really write much about being dominant – since she really ISN’T) but she did have a rider herself in the creature thanks to JG’s hospitality. The rider shall remain anonymous for now unless of course they should choose to unmask… It was very kind of JG to allow it since he is quite picky about who he allows to use the full ensemble and for that this girl is very grateful.

She is not going to pretend that the rigging was her work because it wasn’t. She was merely the lab assistant and controller once the rigging was completed and it was the absolute full works.

The pressure this girl felt to be in control of the creature was unbelievable. This girl is a firm believe in the importance of safety during bdsm and just the amount of things to be aware of was daunting. Well, you can see the control panel in the picture below. ET312 x 2, vacuum, suction, breath control. The lot. Monitoring all of that whilst having the occupant dangling three metres away and making the occasional convulsion or whimper. It’s not just the visuals of that its the noise as well. The session at the weekend just now didn’t have as much of that. It didn’t have the noise of the vacuum pumping or the breath machines…just the (relatively) more tranquil sound of the bubbler bottle strapped to her. The trick to the thing was working out from the moans and the whimpers what was good pain and what was too much, and what was just sheer overkill.

But you know, the whole thing is kind of overkill. That is pretty much the point, and, both this girl when she was inside it, and her victim, knew what to expect….and got it.

It didn’t stop her feeling guilty afterwards. For helping assist with something that was very much wanted and desired. But she did. The creature is unforgiving, it can leave hints of its tortures on the body afterwards, but then, perhaps no more than the amount that might be left from a good caning. This girl felt bad about that though, as bad probably as when she (accidentally) cut someone who was into cutting. In that case the person quite liked it but this girl felt bad because it hadnt been meant.

This is possibly why this girl does not assume a dominant role too often, since she either feels overwhelmed by it and worries whether she will live up to the person’s expectations, or on the other hand, that little sadistic monster somewhere inside might try to escape – and there most definately is one as poor Maxi the other day found out when this girl kept encouraging Grimly to add further torments to her bondage!

But , these things are of course done out of friendship and to share the adventure.

Hopefully these last few paragraphs dont make this girl feel dangerous, it really is the opposite since she has always taken great care to ensure any submissive she plays with gets what they’ve wanted in a safe and controlled manner – its just sometimes that little sadistic monster wants out!

The rest of what this girl has written about her visit to Canada is here