30 days of dominance : Day 20

Day 20


Has your Dominance increased or decreased over time? Have you ever had to renegotiate with your submissive due to a change in feelings or circumstance? Have your interests as a Dominant expanded or contracted over time?

I don’t know how you measure it. I’m trying to imagine a marker up the wall and failing to do so as I’m not sure it works quite like that!

I’ve always been me. I’ve always been a sadomasochistic and I would say always a switch. I have early memories of games where I was tied up, where I was doing the tying up and really throughout my adulthood its been the same. A lot of people who read my blog may still see more as what they’d label as a sub, but thats really only because most of the time I’ve had this blog I’ve only shown that side, when it’s not really the full picture.

I don’t think I’m more or less dominant than I ever was.

day 20

I think I’m more confident than I was in general. Also, more proficient. I think that goes for everyone, it’s always possible to learn more and get better at something. To be honest, this may sound cliché, but I feel I’m less of a girl and more of a woman and a lot of those feelings are of course to do with my better half, Grimly.

day 20

I think generally I have more skills to impress people. More confidence in my abilities, more ideas. Crazier ideas. I definitely don’t have an issue with taking on multiple subs in one scene 😉 Like here with my friends Goldilocks B and her partner. I love how they’re looking at each other in this photo despite how mean I was being to both of them just slightly before!

day 20

I want to keep learning more, trying more, both on the giving end , on the receiving end too. All of it. Tell me what else is out there! 😉

I go through phases where I’ll feel I want to be tying people up more, or being tied up more. As a result sometimes I don’t feel dominant, sometimes I don’t feel submissive. I find it easier to be domme than sub though, it’s easier to be in the mood to be a bad ass 😉

I don’t think I really have had to re-negotiate things as such with anyone. I think if adaption is required for some reason then I adapt. Like if a play partner had a health issue, we’d just work around it. No big deal there.


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