The subject and inspiration of this weeks Wicked Wednesday post is ‘Memories’
This girl has a pretty good memory for things, sometimes partially photographic, so she’s always done quite well in exams and things like that. To her preserving memories is important since its a way of remembering the past and people that have crossed her path that may or may not still be here. In the last few years she’s been conscious of the value of memories since she has a close family member with altzheimers and it is sad to see how that impacts the family and close friends since there is just no recognition there at all. Having seen that, this girl fears losing her mind more than she fears other disability. It must be the most scary thing.
It’s important to remember good friends and good times and life defining moments.
Due to this blog, pretty much all of this girl’s kink memories are intact and covered in nearly over eight hundred entries. Sometimes it is nice to re-read thoughts and ideas and fantasies and compare then with what is happening now and how she feels now. Photographs trigger memories as well. There are some things of course she hasn’t written about but a lot that she has.
When it comes to BDSM and kink, most of this girl’s memories are positive ones and most of her regrets centre on one relationship. In life of course she’s other regrets things like not getting a degree yet and not being more adventurous in her teens and more forthright about a few things over the years. She has regrets about past relationships who doesn’t. It’s like that whole butterfly effect thing though if one bad thing hadn’t happened would that stop something good that happened later happening? She has memories that make her angry or sad, or feel stupid but its part of life and every one of those things define her current character. So based on that , she doesn’t have any memories she would completely erase. The risk of what might be lost as a knock on effect isn’t worth it, since on the whole she is happy with life. There are things she wishes hadn’t happened but thats not the same as wanting to forget things that have. There’s a lot of crap that’s happened this year to her family that she wishes hadn’t happened, but she’ll still remember it in years to come and *hopefully* say ‘well yeah that was kind of shit but we got through it in the end’ and that used to be a family saying too ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ well maybe that doesn’t really help all that much but perhaps there is some truth in it.
Over the years this girl has had a lot of memorable kink experiences which are worth hanging on to. Her fear and dread at her first munch, her first club, first meeting Grimly. The butterflies she had whenever she was on her way to see him, though, she still gets those just not perhaps the same species 😉
Those memories are perhaps a little hard to paint but here are some of this girl’s favourite memories that she can illustrate. Though they are NOT in any specific order, other than perhaps semi chronologically :-
4. Meeting Cutie the poodle girl at a pony event in Wales
5. Indoor pony event in the North West – also where this girl and Grimly first met Geetwo & Maxi
6. First visit to Canada, in fact first visit anywhere long haul – first go in the creature, what a flight that was 😉 Meeting such wonderful people like JG Leathers, STEFFY and a whole host of kinky canadians
7. Having fun with pup at Captive Kinks
8. Folsom Street – and making loads of new friends there and at Serious Bondage
9. Getting married!
Coming soon 😉
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