As part of March Q&A month tonya cinnamon asked :-
“Here is a question I don’t think I have heard you talk about yet.
Do you do pegging or it is done to you? How do you feel about it?”
So, this girl is hoping she’s interpreted the question right here, because technically pegging could mean one of two things – using pegs during play (clothespins) or using strap ons. This girl is going to think perverted and assume Tonya means the latter 😉
Normally pegging in a strap on sense means a woman using a strap on from behind on a man anally. This girl has *not* done that and does not plan to ever do so. Mainly because Grimly (despite her twisted fantasies) won’t even discuss the idea of her doing it to him funnily enough, but also because she doesn’t really want to play with other men in a directly sexual way like that.
However, Grimly has used a strap-on on her. Before this girl and Grimly were having sex with each other it was just a play relationship and then intimacy developed unintentionally, though of course it was welcomed 😉 The urge was very much there to be being more sexual but ‘technically’ being with other people sort of meant that this girl and Grimly held back on that for a very long time (both other relationships were going nowhere just not ‘officially ended’ – long messy story) but oral sex and the strap on sort of crept in by the time this girl and Grimly were well in truly in love with each other. Grimly once used a ‘leg-on’ and on another occasion a normal strap on. It’s actually very weird being fucked with a strap on by a man, because this girl felt sexually objectified and controlled by him and knew that she wasn’t able to try to take any sexual control back from him by doing anything that would make him cum. So he was sort of exercising more sexual control than her if that makes sense. He was sort of saying ‘i will make you orgasm but you won’t make me’. A game sort of.
Anyway, that was that.
This girl has used a strap on with a woman once. Or rather the woman used it on her. This story might have already been told somewhere on this blog before but what happened was that this girl once went to visit a mistress that she knew several years ago. The mistress was very sensual and hot and it’s an experience that this girl has sort of drawn on in developing her own dominant persona since she’d like to be like that woman in some ways. Anyway, without going into the full details of that session again it ended with the Mistress being sat on the sofa wearing a beautiful sexy dress with a strap on over it and asking this girl to straddle it. Perhaps you can work out the rest to avoid this girl going into the realms of wank material 😉
It was one of the most erotic experiences this girl has ever had, since it was tender as well as sexual. If she’d been ‘rammed’ from behind it would not have been as special perhaps. Anyway, this girl isn’t averse to doing that again with the right person.
This girl to date hasn’t used a strap-on on anybody yet, though she does have one 😉 It’s just a matter of waiting for the right person and the right moment and perhaps that’s something this girl won’t write about :p
Linked in to this subject, Handyman asked :
“To what end do you take your dominant role during play? Do you get your subs off? Only with estim or toys? Do your subs reciprocate?”
It really depends on the submissive and how close this girl is to them. This girl generally won’t be very sexual with someone she’s only playing with for the first or even second or third time.
Partly that’s a respect thing but also because some time ago this girl had an experience where another woman took advantage of her when she really didn’t want them to and she doesn’t want to force sexual intimacy on someone unless they are quite clear either verbally or non verbally that they really want that as she wouldn’t want to make someone else feel how she felt about that incident. This girl is not a rapist of either the physical or mental variety and would not want anyone to think otherwise in that respect.
Play can be sexual without it leading to orgasm.Certainly this girl can be turned on equally by being sadistic and by being a masochist and therefore aroused by receiving or inflicting stimuli 😉 Sometimes yes she has made submissives orgasm, but generally it is only when its someone she is very relaxed with, good friends with and sort of on an intimate level with.
Do submissives give her orgasms? It has been known to happen 😉 Sometimes its been odd because this girl’s most intense orgasms are inflicted by an orgasm control trigger that Grimly uses and are particularly strong when it is due to stuff he is doing to her, but if a submissive turns her on enough well then yes that would happen. This girl hasn’t been brainwashed so much lately but when she and Grimly were doing that type of play more frequently she just would not have orgasmed at all without his trigger and that might happen again in the future.
This girl would only allow another girl to pleasure her if she was in an intimate relationship with them and not something she would do in a new relationship. Also, like Grimly when he used the strap-on on her, she likes to keep sexual control so therefore feels its lost a bit when she allows a submissive to do things like that so despite how sexy it is she is reluctant unless she is really wanting to. Though of course there are ways of maintaining that control regardless 😉 It is something she would only do with someone she had a very deep connection and dynamic with. Luckily there are a couple of people like that.
*the title of this post is a quote from 50 sheds of grey *