“Pleasure is the greatest incentive to evil.” A quote by Plato
“Remember that time when you were trying to be strict, and scary, and intimidating, and mean, and it just came across as adorably cute?”
A quote by lollygasmic.
Lollygasmic has not actually met this girl so to come out with a comment that is so,well, close to the mark is quite clever however this girl has spoken to her for a long time online. Hopefully one day she will get to meet her.
What she said is very true though.
This girl cannot be evil or strict or scary without being a little bit nice and caring as well, as anyone who has met her dominant persona will know. Mind you, this girl never wanted to aim for that stereotypical evil bitch role. Telling someone to ‘kneel bitch’ just is not her thing at all, the same way as being told that isn’t her thing either. Sometimes there are times for more subtlety 😉
Years ago this girl tried her hand at being a professional dominatrix. It didn’t work, because in those kind of situations she had to turn the evil on and the role on like it was a tap whether she felt any chemistry for the person or not. It was funny actually, this girl saw someone who she knew when she was trying out being a pro dom at an event last night but it was so long ago and she looks a bit different so he didn’t make the connection or if he did he didn’t say. Just as well in many ways since the session with him hadn’t been perfect, it was okay, but not mind-blowing as some of the sessions this girl has had with female submissives have been. This girl also had another guy last night hankering to play with her at the fetish club she was at ,but she wasn’t in the frame of mind for being evil and also she wasn’t into him either.
For this girl to be the best dom she needs the right attachment points. Not just the physical bondage kind either, though those help! There needs to be chemistry with the person and they need to want *her* rather than just the sensations that she can induce. and she needs to want to give them those.
Really though her incentive for being evil is not really for the pure sadism of it for its own sake. That is part however her main motive is wanting to give the person the pleasure that the pain will create in allowing them to explore their fantasies and to enjoy sensations that they might not have otherwise thought possible. It’s that sort of sharp intake of breath as they contemplate what is about to happen, or that sort of look of longing and love in the eye or just little whimpers begging for more, or sometimes less 😉 Of course it’s also the drool from the gag or the signs that show the victim is aroused. Smiles in-between screams are also so amazingly hot. Those little signs that for them are humiliating pleasure but for her a sign that she got it right.
She doesn’t always. Sometimes this girl is too smooth to be dominant. Like knocking over expensive pieces of kit, getting her corset stuck when trying to take it off to get intimate, all sorts of stupid little things have happened when this girl has been in the zone. Though surely stuff like wardrobe malfunctions can happen to anyone? Right??
As a result of not being into the stereotype, this girl doesn’t talk that much when she’s on the giving end, mostly because anything that she says comes out like cheese and something out of a bad porn movie. The thing is though non verbal communication during bdsm play is so much hotter,and sometimes a submissive can say so much just with their eyes and likewise this girl can say quite a lot just with bondage, percussion,electrics, and tools of pain and pleasure that words perhaps aren’t needed.
Even so, most times she can’t act evil for long. Yes it can be about pain, especially if the person on the receiving end craves that more than anything, but this girl spends so much time before and during and after a session wondering if it was right. Wondering if it was okay for them , wondering if they got what they wanted. Wondering if it was not enough or if it was too much.So when she gets feedback that is amazing.
This girl knows there have been times when it’s not been perfect, hell , it’s a learning curve after all for everyone.
The thing is though the part of a scene that makes this girl the happiest and really this is from both a top and bottom perspective is how it ends. On a receiving end that might often be with an orgasm, on a giving end sometimes that’s appropriate sometimes it’s not. Sometimes its about a different kind of release, some downtime, a cuddle, a chat, warmth and tenderness.
This is where pro dominatrixes are not as good as someone who cares as opposed to someone being paid. A dom that cares will ensure that the pain and bondage may be as hedonistic as its possible to get and that the come down from it will be a blissful descent rather than a crash.
Well back to what lolly said though, at the end of the day this girl can’t maintain the evil. She couldn’t end a session with a click of the finger. Nor would she want to. It’s more about whats deeper and more meaningful for the person and getting totally inside the submissive’s head and that for this girl is the ultimate pleasure and the whole reason for trying to be evil in the first place. The biggest pleasure is the arousal that comes from knowing the lady on the receiving end got exactly what she wanted and ideally, more as well on top. Is that cute?
If its cute to give a friend what they want then this girl is happy to be referred to as that, so she took that comment as an insult.
Maybe she’ll be a big bad dominatrix when she grows up though. Decades yet mind you before that happens!
this girl with a lovely lady who recently came for a visit