Is pain or humiliation (spankings for example) a part of your submission? What is your relationship to it? Do you embrace it as a part of your submission, tolerate it as necessary or have some other type of relationship with it?
Yes. This girl is most definitely as much a masochist as she is a submissive. In fact possibly more so. This girl’s initial interest in all things kink was triggered by pain and the ideas of torture, interrogation and bondage, and, gradually her interests and fantasies overlapped each other.
When she first met Grimly it was those desires really that she was looking to be fulfilled rather than submissive ones, but by meeting her need for pain and bondage she realised she wanted the other parts too, that she needed to belong to the man who could hurt her and hurt her imaginatively and erotically.
This girl and Grimly have discussed a few times whether him hurting her happens because she’s a masochist, he’s a sadist, she’s his submissive, he’s her dominant. Well, really its all of those. He enjoys it but so does she. It is part of how the D/s works with her and Grimly. It is all sort of part of it. It’s perhaps the explicit part of the relationship whereas other aspects of D/s are much more subtle.
It’s the colour and the spice and the taste. It’s the icing on the cake as it were, but there are many other ingredients 😉