Can you feel submissive without a dominant partner? If so, how does your submission express itself? If not, how do you handle your submission or submissive feelings?
This girl doesn’t think it’s really that possible to feel submissive without a dominant. Not for her anyway. It’s like well having the heads sign of a coin without the tails side, or a battery with a positive and not a negative, or ying no yang, the two sort of go together.
This girl has managed the long distance D/s thing, really by wearing his collar, and by sometimes doing little things for him as well, ranging from sleeping in chastity to writing the blog for him and all sorts of things in between.
However without a dominant at all she doesn’t think she would feel remotely submissive. There might be some aspects of her character that lean that way without her thinking about it but, well, to cut a long story short she needs someone to be submissive to . There’s not that many people really that she would want to be submissive to, really only those that have conquered her and gained her respect and love. Well ok, yes just one actually.
It’s a long time since this girl was without a dominant. Her submissive feelings back then were ones that she could file away temporarily, masochism was harder to file away since it is the love of the sensation and an addictive drug , submission can be addictive too but at that point she didn’t know what she was missing. If she were suddenly to stop now and do without, well, it doesn’t bear thinking about, because it would mean she would have lost the love of her life.