Is sexual availability, being available to your partner any time he or she wants, part of your submission? Why or why not? Are there limits to this?
This girl has mentioned probably some time ago that Grimly is really the only man she was properly in love with before having sex. With all her previous partners sex happened quite quickly (probably too soon) into the relationships and as such was lust more so than anything more serious. It was a good six months before this girl and Grimly had sex though and by that time she knew she was in love with him, and definitely felt absolutely his.
This girl has always had a very high sex drive and therefore being available for sex whenever Grimly wants is not usually a problem. Her ex dom hated her high sex drive because he wanted to make her have sex when she didn’t want to, to ‘prove her submission’ and because she pretty much was usually up for it turned him off so he very rarely actually did it. Work that one out lol
Grimly however makes the most of that. There have been occasions when he’s wanted to have sex when her body just has been too tired and on those occasions he generally doesn’t push the issue because he doesn’t find it erotic if she’s not fully into it. This girl does not think being a considerate lover makes him any less dominant in fact really it makes him more so. An understanding dominant is much better than one that’s only thinks of things from his own side.
Probably it is sexual unavailability that is more erotic for Grimly. He enjoys putting her in chastity, or doing play that keeps her on the edge of orgasm. Doing that generally does build up the intensity and then when finally he does unlock her and release her she is very aroused and so is he and often as a result the sex can be more rewarding. It frustrates the hell out of this girl really but the end result is worth it 🙂