This girl had a lovely surprise parcel on Friday from her friend Henry in Canada, of some pictures and some bondage hardware, now whilst she doesn’t know the purpose for everything in her box of tricks – Grimly absolutely will!
It was such a nice thing for someone to do though, to send a random parcel without it being a birthday or christmas present, and brought about a really good introduction to the weekend of a pretty crappy work week. This girl is pretty much a big kid with parcels, ripping open the box in rushed excitement like a child. When she was little she did have the habit of playing with the box more than the contents – but not anymore! Her mum used to turn the boxes into trains and planes for her, all painted and that kept her amused for hours. Now….quite a bit more than a box is required to keep her entertained (well…there is one box that manages the job…more on that in a post coming up soon)
Now pretty much her main source of entertainment is her sadistic husband, but sometimes it’s good to have friends as well as be one of those people who doesn’t bother with their friends once they’re settled with a partner. This girl has had quite a good bit of fun this weekend between going to a local munch yesterday where she met up with some friends old and new and then today she went for tapas with a friend from work. At both events, there was a tiny bit of alcohol consumption. This girl would like to say she doesn’t drink any more, but she doesn’t drink any less either 😉
But whilst having a drink is nice socially, this girl does not mix play with alcohol. It spoils the experience. A few drinks are nice during a social occasion but not for during play. The picture in this post was taken during a party at the Serious Bondage house, but was the only glass this girl had,and well, given the bondage provided by Martin of Rigid Cuffs with the assistance of Captive Kink, it took her a little while to drink it!
Some people like to have a drink (or drugs) before play to relax the nerves, for recreation, goodness knows for what other reasons, but this girl has never really fully understood that requirement in people. If you need to consume those things to enjoy playing with someone, is that the right person to be playing with??? Surely to enjoy playing with the person you should already feel relaxed and confident in their company 🙂
It may be a bit of an obvious fact to state but it can be dangerous.
This girl’s main reason for personally staying sober during play is that as a masochist she wants to feel EVERYTHING. She doesn’t want the experience to be dulled, she wants to feel floaty because she’s been put into subspace not because she’s pissed and about to fall over! She wants to experience the feelings the torment and pleasure he inflicts gives her without taking the edge of it. When she is in a top situation she also wants to ensure the sub is fully aware that she is in charge of the situation and getting her full undivided attention. It’s not rocket science.
So, whilst this girl likes a drink socially at a party or at a munch or in a restaurant, it doesn’t mix with her BDSM, apart from the odd posed photograph 🙂 It is nice to have a drink and say cheers! amongst a group of friends at a get together, but sharing kink is another thing entirely and one that should be enjoyed without any sort of intoxication other than the intoxication and headiness that an intense session can bring about by deviant imagination, cunning design and passionate implementation 😉