Deviations from the rule

This girl doesn’t go to fetish clubs very often, and wears hats even less but she did both on friday! πŸ˜‰ What she wore is pictured at the end of the post.

This girl and Grimly had their friends Geetwo & Maxi staying so it seemed a good idea to go to a fetish club (Deviate in Edinburgh) to hang out and see what else was going on, and it was nice because Alternative mindsets and her husband also came along πŸ™‚

The company was good but the night reminded this girl why she’s not that fussed on fetish clubs.

For being social they have their use in that its a good way of meeting people as ‘yourself’ you can show off the parts of your personality that otherwise remain hidden day-to-day and it’s fun getting dressed up an all of that. However that is not to say everyone at a fetish club will have things in common with each other, sometimes it all seems a bit cliquey and separated.

There were a lot of young people who seemed to be there because maybe it’s the in thing to do it who probably would freak out if they knew what this girl and Grimly do. There were people mainly into ‘tie and spank’ and this girl has kind of moved on from that. She very rarely sees the point of playing at a club.

Since she met Grimly she’s had more fun in private than would be possible in a room full of people because it’s just too intimate and being the shy type she hates an audience usually. Having people in the background is distracting. There are times when she likes to show off but if she is wanting to find that ‘head space’ and meet her masochistic needs its much better in private.

The most off-putting thing though generally about a fetish club is the music. YUCK. It kills the ability to have a conversation and its generally heavy metal crap and all sorts of stuff that’s very loud and irritating. Gosh this girl almost sounds like Grimly having one of his rants!

Better stop then on that subject!

It’s the last burlesque class tonight of the six week run so Β that will be fun this girl has her own tassles now! She’s certainly getting more into the burlesque and vintage stuff and picking up a few things here and there.

15 thoughts on “Deviations from the rule

  1. My one fetish club visit years ago matched up pretty well with your “rant.”. The music oscillated between White Zombie wannabes and Goth Rock, and it completely prevented any conversation. Anyonw who brought a ball gag with them needn’t have bothered! :-). There was therefore zero chance to interact with other club guests, which was a letdown.
    As an aside,is there actually any music that works with a fetish club sceene other than White Zombie, Nine Inch Nails and “I Touch Myself” by the Devinyls? I don’t really see old Billy Joel or Phil Collins material really doing the tricj. Sure, Ravel’s (sp?) Bolero might work, but you can really only frop the needle on that tune once in an evening.

    In fairness, as a couple of newvies it was pretty exciting to be out in public in fetishwear, and to be (in my case) handcuffed, led around the place and mashed with by my wife/domme. And the people-watching wasn’t too bad. It was a fun adventure for us, bur it certainly didn’t live up to our expectations.

    As is the case when visiting a vanilla night club, it would have been more fun with friends,but none of our friends have ever made even the slightest indication that they might be BDSM-kinky, and most have recoiled quickly if either of us vaguely alluded to our own preferences, so that was never really an option. We run with a crowd that generally sees oral sex as eddgy, kinky play…These are not your nipple-clamps-in-the-nightstand-drawer types, let alone trainer gags and armbinders. Sigh. Their loss.

  2. I know what you mean about the tie and spank crowd, not for me either.

    And yes, I remember the ‘music’ from clubs as well, awful stuff!

  3. An interesting post about how there can be cliques and some “scene kids” in the fetish clubs. I’m going to go to my first club quite soon, so I know if it is cliquey, not for it to put me off the scene per se, as not everyone views cliquey as good.

  4. Your completely correct in your assement of the clubs. And I believe strongly in keeping what we enjoy private. And that music?? Jeesh!! LOL
    Its not to say that you might have a few close friends you enjoy with you, but its not like the club scene. Thank you so much for your cmmentary, its was very clear and very truthful.

    As always a great fan of your πŸ™‚

    John

  5. Much prefer the opportunity to get your mates and go to the pub….. good food… good craic…. good company….. What more does one need.? πŸ™‚ Oh…and I totally agree with you about the music lol

  6. When they could make themselves heard over the music, the men concerned all agreed that they were with far and away the three best-looking ladies in the room.

    Geetwo

  7. Thanks summertime75 & Keith πŸ™‚

    Ollie, i dunno I don’t think there is any music that really works that well at a fetish club because everyone there comes from different walks of life and there is not going to be something that suits everyone so i think they go for what the majority will be pissed off by lol . I was thinking about music in general and Grimly and I don’t play to music that often not as background anyway, though we do use it quite a bit as white noise with the headphones setup but its rare for us to use the Cd player during a session because it generally doesn’t fit the type of play. Sometimes when this girl has done CP and flogging with people stuff like enigma or more relaxing type music has helped drift them into subspace.

    Stevie, i miss Nemesis being up the road from you, one of the few clubs that had it okay i think.

    Deckard, i’m sure your visit will be fun, I still have fun going to clubs but I think its best to see it as a social opportunity rather than a play one. I think cliques are pretty bad myself and make it hard for people who aren’t part of them but it seems to have always been the case at the clubs i’ve been to though the organisers of most clubs do make the effort to make newbies welcome and introduce them to folk they might have things in common with so i am sure you will have a great time πŸ™‚

    Thanks too John πŸ™‚

    Grimly and Geetwo ……smooth talkers…

    lol

  8. much of your description could also apply to fet-club life here over the other side of the pond unfortunately.

  9. Love your outfit except for the shoes for some reason (hope no offense taken!).

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