This girl doesn’t go to fetish clubs very often, and wears hats even less but she did both on friday! 😉 What she wore is pictured at the end of the post.
This girl and Grimly had their friends Geetwo & Maxi staying so it seemed a good idea to go to a fetish club (Deviate in Edinburgh) to hang out and see what else was going on, and it was nice because Alternative mindsets and her husband also came along 🙂
The company was good but the night reminded this girl why she’s not that fussed on fetish clubs.
For being social they have their use in that its a good way of meeting people as ‘yourself’ you can show off the parts of your personality that otherwise remain hidden day-to-day and it’s fun getting dressed up an all of that. However that is not to say everyone at a fetish club will have things in common with each other, sometimes it all seems a bit cliquey and separated.
There were a lot of young people who seemed to be there because maybe it’s the in thing to do it who probably would freak out if they knew what this girl and Grimly do. There were people mainly into ‘tie and spank’ and this girl has kind of moved on from that. She very rarely sees the point of playing at a club.
Since she met Grimly she’s had more fun in private than would be possible in a room full of people because it’s just too intimate and being the shy type she hates an audience usually. Having people in the background is distracting. There are times when she likes to show off but if she is wanting to find that ‘head space’ and meet her masochistic needs its much better in private.
The most off-putting thing though generally about a fetish club is the music. YUCK. It kills the ability to have a conversation and its generally heavy metal crap and all sorts of stuff that’s very loud and irritating. Gosh this girl almost sounds like Grimly having one of his rants!
Better stop then on that subject!
It’s the last burlesque class tonight of the six week run so that will be fun this girl has her own tassles now! She’s certainly getting more into the burlesque and vintage stuff and picking up a few things here and there.