* sorry this post isn’t about bdsm so if you wish skip on…
One of this girl’s aunts passed away at the weekend. This girl wasn’t particularly close to her since that side of the family has been estranged for years due to stuff that happened many decades ago, but lately it was all coming back together and this girl had hoped that side of the family would be at the wedding. Together.
She’s mostly upset for the members of her family who were close to her aunt, like her dad and her dad’s other sister but also because there will be a noticeable absence at the wedding. This girl is already upset that she can’t have her gran at her wedding and so it just feels like someone else that should be there that isn’t.
Grimly quite rightly said that the most important thing is to make it special for those that are there and to also ensure those that aren’t are remembered.
He is often better at saying the right thing at a time like this when the right words make all the difference. Sometimes its difficult to know what to say when everyone has different ways of dealing with it. Normally this girl is quite good with words but when its something that emotes so much feeling and emotion its really difficult.
Certainly it makes BDSM feel very unimportant and writing about it even less so, but this is the thing, life and family gets in the way and it would be a sad state of affairs if those things didn’t take priority.