These questions were found on Ollie’s blog and to do with some sort of 30 days of kink thing has been going on….here are this girl’s first ten answers since they are quite good questions and may help readers who are new here catch up on what this girl is about.
1. Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.
This girl identifies mostly with being a masochist. When she first sought out BDSM it was because she had fantasies about being tied up and tortured. It has mostly always been the need for a combination of pain and pleasure that has been her driving force and her motive for wanting ‘this stuff’. Part of this girl feels bad for saying she identifies more as a masochist than anything else since it makes her feel a bit like some sort of animal as opposed to Grimly’s needs which are perhaps more cerebral but there you go. It is the sensory journey that attracts her the most. By the same token she also sometimes enjoys ‘operating the ride’ and given those experiences to others if the right opportunity and chemistry is there, but mostly she prefers to be on the receiving end and the evil bitch side only comes out very occasionally.
Since she’s been with Grimly this girl has also identified as being a submissive and a slave. The ideology of ownership and possession sitting much more comfortably with her than that of actually being obedient all the time! Though as he gets deeper into her head that sort of has improved by itself. This girl has an eternity collar and also tattoos (chinese symbols for love & slave on her back) that identify her as his. For this girl whilst the physical aspect of things was her drive for ‘getting into bdsm’ she has learnt over time the importance and value of developing this sort of relationship with a regular loving partner. If you can’t share your fantasies with the person you love who can you share them with? With Grimly most of the things this girl suffers at his hands aren’t really hardships as such since the compatibility with him is spot on and his fantasies are the same.
2. List your kinks
This girl is essentially someone who is happy to be owned by the man she loves and enjoys exploring all aspects of kink with him. This girl’s kinks include bondage (including straight jackets, armbinders etc), electro-play,sci fi and brainwashing, erotic torture,medical play, suspension, pony & pet play and all sorts of things inbetween.That list is not really extensive! Oh and of course latex!
3. How did you discover you were kinky?
This girl doesn’t know the exact starting point, however she visited a lot of castles and places with dungeons and torture chambers when she was young having a family that preferred holidays in the UK (and setting off at ‘stupid o-clock to get them) instead of beaches. That may have been the start combined with an interest in history and also a sort of liking for films whereby the heroine was kidnapped and tortured such as joan of arc, robin hood and also things like james bond and the avengers. Life imitates art? In her mid teens this girl (for no explainable reason) indulged in some types of self erotic torture (NOT self harm since she has never cut) but she has no idea where the thoughts behind that came from. This girl did not lose her virginity till she was 20 and that relationship was relatively normal (despite starting on the internet) and during that relationship this girl (again for an unknown reason) tried to introduce bdsm – he wasn’t interested. That relationship ended though by really just drifting apart. After that this girl discovered a few chatrooms and websites to do with BDSM and sort of then got a better understanding of where her earlier thoughts might have come from and where they might go to and then from there she started talking to people with temporarily disastrous results (long story) but in the end all is well. If she could tell a newbie anything it would be to beware of people on the internet, try and meet people that come with good reputations, and meet them in safe surroundings.
4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?
As above, but also this girl used to sort of roleplay games where her friend’s brother would try and catch her and her friend and make them his slaves – which really just involved them getting him crisps and sweets from the kitchen and tidying up his mess. No different really to any other childhood game of cops and robbers or whatever. This girl did like tying up people during role play games though as well again liked being caught during kiss cuddle or torture but that’s really it. All very innocent and average for being a kid in the eighties in the UK (at least in yorkshire??) lol
5: What was your first kinky sexual experience? If you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen.
With that first serious boyfriend this girl mentioned she’d made a really bad collar and sort of breast harness and sort of let him find her all trussed up for when he came to bed. He hated it. He did like anal sex but he wasn’t interested in bondage. Looking back it was quite embarrassing. After that the next experience was meeting her ex. Long story short – met in a hotel room, got tied up, had sex and a little teasing on the first date – then embarked on a disastrous relationship that needed a knight on a white charger (or at least an eccentric scotsmen in an eighties sportscar) to rescue her. lol. That would be Grimly. First time with Grimly – read here.
6: Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy.
Umm. Apart from wanting to be tortured whilst suspending over a shark tank? 😉
Perhaps a more elaborate combination of everything that has happened so far – being kidnapped and taken to a laboratory, being covered in electrodes, tortured and brainwashed and left a compliant slave. Think sort of a bit of a cross between what this girl has done so far, the sort of equipment Gord builds and then advance it about 1000 years – sort of futuristic, elaborate and over the top. A bit like one of JG’s novels perhaps. There are more of course but that might give you spoilers of what might come here in the future 😉
7: What’s your favorite toy?
ET312 without a doubt. Not on its own however, it needs to be combined with bondage and the right atmosphere, but this girl has suffered (?) a great many orgasms because of its capabilities and recently had fun trying to deliver some too. Probably it’s the piece of hardware that combined with bondage impressed her most when first playing with Grimly.
8: Post a kinky image you find erotic.
Here are a couple of pictures this girl likes of Geoff Ridgway’s….second one posted as a ‘friend’ threatened to do this to her recently!
Yeah it’s boaty 😉 (sorry in-joke)
9. Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.
10. What are your hard limits?
Needles and cutting.
Piss and scat. This girl did watersports with her ex. Yuck. Never again.
Anything that involves anyone who doesn’t or can’t consent. This girl only wants to play with people who want it. In the past she’d been asked by male dominants would she ‘do’ their straight sub. NO! She does not want to be involved in any sort of non consensual malarkey.
Now , totally randomly, the top ten yorkshire sayings
Sit thissen dahn an’ tell me abaht it
See all, ‘ear all, say nowt. Eat all, sup all,pay nowt. An’ if th’ivver does owt for nowt, allus do it for thissen
Ee, by gum
Tha’ can allus tell a Yorkshireman, but tha’ can’t tell ‘im much
Well, Ah’ll go to t’foot of ahr stairs
It’s neither nowt nor summat
Put t’wood in t‘oil
Wheere ther’s muck, ther’s brass
An’ Ah’ll tell thi that fer nowt 😉
* 20 questions to follow tomorrow…….