This girl has never really agreed with people who say they are born kinky. She is more of the opinion that it is something that is maybe there a little but needs the right combination of people and experience to bring it out to its full potential.
This girl can tell you for fact that there was no kink around in her childhood and there was no sort of distressing episode that turned her like this.
But something did. Not anything bad, just fantasies, dreams and imagination. This girl has always had a pretty vivid imagination 😉
Looking back, this girl can quite honestly say that when she was new to BDSM and fetish she was pretty much like a baby or a child. Impressionable. It’s so easy to be wide-eyed about everything and to be over-excitable and eager. Sometimes this is dangerous, since it can lead to errors of judgement in important choices such as who to submit to and who to surrender everything to. There’s a lot more information and guidance out there now, since places like fetlife and submissive guide have grown, but what can be learnt from reading about things can easily be forgotten by the excitement of the moment and by thinking that your dreams are going to come true. It’s likely that can be said regardless of what age you are this can be the case if you are new. Someone who is 30 with 10 years experience may be a lot wiser and less impressionable than someone who is 45 and new to it all. Experience of people, not only of play and role means a lot more than age.
The best thing is to find a dom (or partner) who can guide that curiosity and eagerness carefully, however the responsibility of this is not only on the man, it’s important to have some self-discipline as well. Easy to say retrospectively 😉
This girl has been lucky that she has had Grimly to sort of guide her impressionability and imagination and whatever she was, what she is now is mostly because of him. It took this girl a long time to actually trust him given what she had been through before but it’s led to a great deal of adventures and also a lot more confidence as well that she might not have had otherwise.
Even a masochist wants to be cared for, protected and loved 😉