‘What’s the point?’ a comment to one of the pictures of the last set this girl posted here that Grimly cross posted on flickr.
Grimly answered succinctly by just saying ‘because i can’.
Initially this girl thought the comment was a bit ignorant and that it should be obvious what the point is. Bondage. Suspension. Sensory deprivation. Fetish wear. Surely the point of doing all that is obvious? It’s fun and its erotic. It’s fantasy.
To be honest, whats the point of any bdsm play apart from those reasons? None of this is really complex rocket science or anything like that. It’s happening because at least one of the people involved (hopefully both in most cases!) is enjoying either the physical sensation of it or the predicament, or the power exchange, or perhaps just the chance to escape reality for a little while. Ok, so it wont always be the case that a person looking at a photograph enjoys it, but they’re not meant to every single time. It’s not happened *for* them, and everybody has different fetishes so of course there are going to be people who wouldn’t find being in the same situation (or putting someone in that situation) arousing or interesting. This girl tries to be understanding of most fetishes, but they are still some she doesn’t understand – such as worshipping feet or wearing diving equipment without going diving so probably there are many other fetishists who don’t see the attraction to suspension and bondage. Though suspension maybe is the type of thing that you kind of need to try it to understand how spacy it can make you.
The whole photo thing bugs this girl sometimes. She sometimes doesn’t like Grimly taking them, because as soon as a camera becomes involved it almost starts being about showing off to someone else rather than it about being a personal (and usually very sexual) experience. It involves others, or at least their thoughts and opinions. It’s like a third person being there. Unless she’s so far gone that he could be doing anything it can get very noticeable like a third person being in the room and can make things feel disjointed and can make her feel too conscious of how she looks because sometimes bondage isn’t flattering – a lot of times it is – but not always!
The thing is, this girl can’t really complain. She’s an exhibitionist at the end of the day, and perhaps its irony that she doesn’t like the process that goes into making her one. Most of the time Grimly works round it by doing photos either at the very beginning or the very end of a session, or making a session a dedicated photo one so that more intense play doesn’t get interrupted. Really this girl has little to complain about it but it doesn’t stop her, especially when they are people out there that put such silly comments on the end result.
Ultimately the photos are there as a record to show what has happened to this girl at the hands of her madman, and not really so much to become the guilty pleasures of someone else. It’s a fair point though that posting them peers are going to judge and some will think its amazing and some will think its rubbish and some will wonder what the point of it is, and really what the point of this girl writing about it was too no doubt, since really Grimly’s right the answer to the whole predicament is because he can.
Oh and because she likes it.