This girl does sometimes get off on humiliation a lot. But then she does love most BDSM practices.
NB : this blog is absolutely nothing to do with forcing non-consensual issues its about encouraging things that are do-able by the subby but cause embarrasment and erm moistness and a bit of excitement.
Dictionary “vanilla” definition : humiliation
1: state of disgrace or loss of self-respect
2: strong feelings of embarrassment [syn: chagrin, mortification]
3: an instance in which you are caused to lose your prestige or self-respect; “he had to undergo one humiliation after another” [syn: mortification]
4: depriving one of self-esteem [syn: abasement]
It takes many forms, but is exactly what it says. To be humiliated forms a part of many scenes, but what one person finds humiliating is not necessarily the same thing for the next person. Some people probably are against being made to do things they find embarrasing altogether but we all have different limits, needs and fantasies.
There’s not that many things that this girl finds humiliating/embarrasing mind you and most of them are only really all that humiliating the first time (although she is sure this thought will be challenged at some point or other lol) and she is not going to list the things she finds humiliating here for fear/hope they might be used against her!
This girl gets a really strong kick from being forced into doing something that she strongly, in theory, object to (. Ok objections though only exist to be overcome right? Theres always going to be something that exists thats worse/more painful/more difficult than suffering mild embarrasment, but putting up a fight in accepting it is half the fun – or it is in this girl’s mind.
Also, on some level, accepting someone doing something humiliating to you or making you carry out a humiliating act is a sign of submission, because you are surrendering control (maybe not straight away in this girl’s case there may be a bit of a carry on first lol) but it *is* about giving up control of the situation.
One of the weirdest things though is that after you get over the initial humiliation of what you’re doing you actually start getting off on doing it, even though you hate doing it at the same time.
you might even start encouraging it to happen.
Eventually, when you feel signs of submission for someone you do even seem to go out of your way to try and entertain them by voluntarily making your own life embarrasing and/or difficult. Weird that. LOL.