Stick and carrot treatment?

There are so many reasons to be good. To be obedient. To not give your Dom a load of grief.

So it should be easy to be the perfect submissive right?

No. Well, not for this girl.

This girl *is* submissive, she’s not just ‘playing at it’ or doing it as part of a weekend kinky sex game. The problem is that she’s also headstrong,stubborn and likes to get her own way and yes, at times a BRAT. So sometimes there is a bit of an inner conflict of interest!

If you take the stick as being ‘things that hurt’ it doesn’t really work because the problem is most physical things that he will do to her she enjoys. Ok, sometimes she’ll hate them at the time but regardless it will turn this girl on and she’ll always want more. So pain in itself is not necessarily a punishment. Because of this, Grimly & this girl rarely do ‘punishment scenes’. There isn’t any point crafting into their BDSM the idea that he will hurt her if she’s bad, because, it’s no secret he’s the sadist she’s the masochist. So pain, pleasure, it all mingles up together!

‘Carrots’ or incentives are a bit weird too. This girl loves most of the things he does to her and she also enjoys the benefit of all the funky toys he builds. So in some ways she is a bit spoilt and very lucky that she has what she has. To sort of land on her feet with the best dominant to suit her needs should really be enough incentive to behave!

Recently, grimly & this girl tried out a new idea. If she could be obedient and completely well behaved for a few days then he would let her have an extra weekend with him (long distance relationships suck). This worked.

Well at least it was a combination of the factors of wanting to have some more fun with him but also because she’s getting to the point recently where she wants to prove to herself that she ‘can do this properly’ and she wants him to be proud of her. So really giving him the idea of giving her a prize for achieving it was just really a cover for saying ‘i want this anyway’ though it’s unlikely he fell for that! Grimly is impossible to trick!

For this girl there is always a blurred line when she is being obedient of whether she is doing out of submission or out of wanting to keep the man she loves happy. The motive doesn’t really matter as long as it all works and recently things are falling into place quite nicely.